I’m sure at one time or another- whether in your childhood, teenage years, or even as an adult- you have gotten tired of rules. It seems everywhere we go, there are rules of one sort or another. At home, work, school, and church, we struggle to keep up with all the do’s and don’ts- and sometimes even wonder if it’s worth the bother. Before you give up, though, here’s a plan to keep you sane as you wade through what sometimes seem to illogical or stupid RULES.
1. Make sure you have the right attitude.
If you start with the attitude that this rule doesn’t make sense and I don’t have to obey it, you are not going to end up making the right decision. You need to keep an open mind, realizing that there may be a reason that you just haven’t seen yet. If you keep your cool, you will earn the respect of those around you, and if you ever do need to change a rule, you will have their support.
2. Examine the spirit of the rule.
Every rule began for a reason. Rules don’t just spring into existence randomly. Often, it’s not really the rule itself that is being enforced, it’s the reason behind it. Here’s a list of the most common reasons for rules.
a. To protect your safety.
(ex. Don’t run with knives. Do look both ways before crossing the road.)
b. To protect your morality.
(ex. Don’t steal. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.)
c. To protect your purity.
(ex. Don’t wear immodest clothing. Do maintain proper relationships with the opposite sex.)
d. To protect your reputation.
(ex. Don’t go to places where bad things are known to happen-ie. bars, nightclubs, etc. Do be careful what you put on the internet.)
3. Take the proper action.
If you still can’t find the reason for a particular rule, talk to someone in authority. Many times, they will have a reason that maybe you didn’t think of. If not, go through the proper channels to change the rule. Simply rebelling against the rule won’t get anything done. You have to go through the steps to fix it. A lot of times, though, there is a reason and we should obey the rule -even if we don’t totally agree with it.
4. Make sure you have the right attitude.
Whether or not you decide to obey or change the rule in question, be happy about it! Nobody wants to be around someone who is constantly complaining and belly-aching about everything. I put this in here twice because I believe that it is the most important part of dealing with rules. Keep a joyful and submissive spirit, and the rules will take care of themselves.