RESPECT’, noun [Latin respectus.]
1. Regard; attention.
2. That estimation or honor in which men hold the distinguished worth or substantial good qualities of others.
We all long for the respect of others, yet often feel as though we do not receive the respect that we believe we deserve. Respect is necessary in all relationships, so it is important that we are worthy of that respect. Here are some tried and true ways to gain the respect of others.
1. Respect Others.
You will not be respected unless you show respect for the privacy, feelings, and differences of others. A person who is biased or insensitive will be avoided or even ostracized by other people. He must instead be considerate and discreet in order to gain the confidence and respect of those around him.
2. Be Dependable.
You will not be respected unless you are a trustworthy person. A person who is consistently late, lazy, or dishonest will be mistrusted by others, especially his peers. He must instead be utterly dependable and competent in order to earn the trust and respect of those who need his services.
3. Control Yourself.
You will not be respected unless you keep yourself under control. A person who is constantly flying into a rage, cussing, or making inappropriate and crude comments will be marked as being socially unfit, rude, and undisciplined by other people. He must instead control his temper and avoid social unacceptable remarks in order to gain the company and respect of those who he would like to be his friends.
4. Believe In Yourself.
This last idea is probably the most important. If you do not respect yourself, no one else will, either. A person who is constantly downplaying himself and depending on others to make all the decisions will be despised and pitied by others; for though some might call this grovelling ‘modesty’, it is instead the person’s unconscious attempt to gain the affections of others by being subservient to them. However, it will instead have the opposite effect, because people will naturally try to avoid this type of person. He must instead maintain a healthy level of self-respect (carefully avoiding arrogance) in order for others to place their trust and respect in him.