Earn Your Respect


RESPECT’, noun [Latin respectus.]

1. Regard; attention.

2. That estimation or honor in which men hold the distinguished worth or substantial good qualities of others.

We all long for the respect of others, yet often feel as though we do not receive the respect that we believe we deserve. Respect is necessary in all relationships, so it is important that we are worthy of that respect. Here are some tried and true ways to gain the respect of others.

1. Respect Others.

You will not be respected unless you show respect for the privacy, feelings, and differences of others. A person who is biased or insensitive will be avoided or even ostracized by other people. He must instead be considerate and discreet in order to gain the confidence and respect of those around him.

2. Be Dependable.

You will not be respected unless you are a trustworthy person. A person who is consistently late, lazy, or dishonest will be mistrusted by others, especially his peers. He must instead be utterly dependable and competent in order to earn the trust and respect of those who need his services.

3. Control Yourself.

You will not be respected unless you keep yourself under control. A person who is constantly flying into a rage, cussing, or making inappropriate and crude comments will be marked as being socially unfit, rude, and undisciplined by other people. He must instead control his temper and avoid social unacceptable remarks in order to gain the company and respect of those who he would like to be his friends.

4. Believe In Yourself.

This last idea is probably the most important. If you do not respect yourself, no one else will, either. A person who is constantly downplaying himself and depending on others to make all the decisions will be despised and pitied by others; for though some might call this grovelling ‘modesty’, it is instead the person’s unconscious attempt to gain the affections of others by being subservient to them. However, it will instead have the opposite effect, because people will naturally try to avoid this type of person. He must instead maintain a healthy level of self-respect (carefully avoiding arrogance) in order for others to place their trust and respect in him.



Judge Not


“Judge not, that ye be not judged.”

This is probably the most quoted verse in the Bible, right next to John 3:16, but most of the people use quote it don’t understand its meaning. There are three kinds of ‘judging’, and only one of those is condemned in the Bible.

1. Judging Right and Wrong

The first type of judging is the discernment of right from wrong. This is when a person views an action or attitude and decides that it is either right or wrong based on the Scripture. Psalms 37:27 says, Depart from evil, and do good; and dwell for evermore.”, but one cannot depart from evil unless he can discern what it is. It is very important for Christians to learn discernment so that he can stand for what it is right. Example: Q-a man/woman invites you to a bar for a drink. Is this right or wrong? A- wrong. The Bible teaches the believer not to imbibe in alcoholic beverages.

2. Judging Character

The second type of judging is the judgment of a person’s character. This is when a person views the activities and attitude of another and bases their relationship accordingly. The Bible teaches us to identify other Christians by their fruit, and to avoid those people who actively defy God.

Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit.”  

“He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”

It is vital that Christians be able to judge character so that wolves do not sneak into the flock of God. Example: Q- a man/woman who has recently joined the church and is not faithful asks to teach a Sunday School class. Do you allow this? A- No. A person must show himself responsible before he is given great responsibilities.

3. Judging People

The third type of judging is judging people. This is where a person views the activities and attitudes and actively criticizes or disparages them. This is the type of judging spoke against in the Bible. While it is sometimes necessary to base decisions based on a person’s character, one should never belittle someone or gossip about them behind their back. It is not the Christian’s responsibility to police other Christians, but rather to forbear one another in love. Every Christian is responsible to God alone for his spiritual life, and others have no right to interfere.Who art thou that judgest another man’s servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth.”  Example: Q- a man/woman in the church has a problem with tithing. Should you give them a lecture? A- No. That is between them and the Lord.

I hope this article was informative and helpful. It is easy sometimes to get the three types of judging mixed up, and either become too critical or not discerning enough. Just remember the golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. God bless!


Unseen Influence


You haven’t noticed just quite yet

(And might not ever see),

How much I’m looking up to you;

How much you mean to me.

You might not think I notice you;

That you don’t matter much.

You may believe you’re unobserved;

That I ignore your touch.

You may not think I care when you

Are lonely or distressed;

You might not feel that I rejoice

When you are greatly blessed.

You may not think you matter:

That no one thinks of you.

But I am watching closely-

Be careful what you do.

May the Lord Bless You


May the sun shine upon you;

May the rains ever fall.

May the birds ever sing;

Their melodious song.

May the Lord bless your family,

Your friends and your home.

May the Lord be your anchor,

So you’ll never more roam.

May the Lord be your Rock

On time’s shifting sands.

May the Lord be your Fortress

From the enemy’s hands.

May the Lord be your armor

From the enemies’ darts;

May the Lord put His joy

Way down deep in your heart.

May the Lord be your love;

May the Lord be your peace.

May the Lord always hear

When you cry on your knees.

May the Lord smile on you

When you trust in His Way;

But may the Lord have mercy

When you do not obey.

May the Lord be your Friend

And help you through to the end.

May the Lord be your Strength

When you can’t seem to stand.

May the Lord be your Wisdom

As you face every test.

May the Lord be your Shepherd,

And lead you into His rest.